I call bullsh*t on the “All or Nothing” mindset.

All or Nothing Mindset

It is so easy to paralyze yourself with expectations of what you should be doing…that you end up doing nothing. “I should workout five times a week for at least 30 minutes…but that’s overwhelming, so I won’t work out at all.” “I should eat healthier…but I don’t know where to start so I will just […]

How well do you handle uncomfortable emotions?

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Uncomfortable emotions are not fun. Over the years, I’ve ranged from stuffing my feelings down, to lashing out at inappropriate times, to being unable to express what is bothering me…and now I continue to re-assess if my uncomfortable emotions are in line with my values. I’ve shared this Rumi quote before, but I want to […]

What to do When Life Throws You a Frightening Curveball

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“Grace can take you places hustling can’t.”   -Unknown “I don’t get it,” I told my husband on a cold February evening, “What am I missing?” I had just emerged from my most successful quarter ever for my business, and all of a sudden things had ground to a halt. As in, no income that month. Perhaps […]

Cheat Sheet: Bedtime Habits to Boost Your Mental Health

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I’ve been thinking a lot about sleep lately. I have a few sleep-deprived friends with young children, and we’ve been chatting about how much lack of sleep can affect your mental resilience. Most of us are used to going on 6 hours of sleep and wouldn’t consider ourselves sleep deprived. But according to the National […]

Lost in Translation: Are You Wasting Effort in Your Relationships?

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Think of the last time you had a great time with a friend. What was it that was so great? You got to spend time with them doing something that you loved? They make you feel special because of what they said? You had a special little gift that you couldn’t wait to give them…something […]

How to deflate your frustration in less than a minute…

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When’s the last time that you felt frustrated? Yesterday? This morning? Chances are, it isn’t hard to recall a recent irritating moment. Most of the time, those moments involve other people: our children, our co-workers, our spouses. Don’t you wish that you had a cattle prodder magic switch that would change their behavior? Of course […]

You’re Not Alone If You Have Mixed Feelings About Mother’s Day​…

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Mother’s Day is next Sunday. It’s supposed to be the day that we honor mothers, but it’s also a tough day for many people. My therapist says that, next to Christmas, it’s her busiest time of the year. I’ve spoken with many other people about this topic over the years, yet I struggled to write […]

Want to make a new friend? Follow these 5 simple steps…

Want to make a new friend

A few weeks ago I had a client confess to me that she was feeling a bit lonely. I asked her if she wanted some suggestions for making new friends. Her response was an enthusiastic, “Yes, please!” Out of curiosity, I inquired if she had ever moved as a kid or changed schools. She hadn’t. […]

Will You Get a Passing Grade for Self-Care?

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Here’s the pattern I have begun to notice about type A personalities and overachievers: We take pride in a lot of our accomplishments, but rarely on how well we take care of ourselves. What if there were gold stars given out for how much sleep you got? What if your corporate bonus was partially dependent […]