How well do you handle uncomfortable emotions?

Uncomfortable emotions are not fun.

Over the years, I’ve ranged from stuffing my feelings down, to lashing out at inappropriate times, to being unable to express what is bothering me…and now I continue to re-assess if my uncomfortable emotions are in line with my values.

I’ve shared this Rumi quote before, but I want to share it again:

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
Some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all…

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

I love the idea of uncomfortable emotions being like visitors that we can invite in and learn from. I always have to force myself not to skip past the entertaining part of this…I want to skip right to the learning part.

I would encourage you to take this quiz and answer as honestly as you can. Pay attention to the options for each response. Do you wish you would respond a different way? When you arrive at the outcome of this quiz, ask yourself what you can learn from this?

You may agree or disagree with the assessment. It’s an opportunity for self-reflection.

Click below to take the 10-question quiz:



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