An unconventional relationship book that will challenge your assumptions.

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence.

By Esther Perel.

I read this book many years ago and I talked about it so much that my husband decided to read it too.

This is not your average relationship book.  Esther’s perspective is thought-provoking as she argues that the North American tendency to focus on “we” as a couple can ultimately mean the demise of a relationship through suffocation.

I really appreciate how Esther urges people in romantic relationships to pursue their individual passions and interests, in order to create space in the relationship so that the spark can be kept alive.

You may not agree with everything she says, but you will learn some fundamental truths about relationships that last.

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