I re-parented myself with this book.

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind.

By Daniel J. Siegel, MD and Tina Payne Bryson, PhD.

What do I mean by re-parenting?  Our parents did the best they could with the skills and resources that they had, but most of us had to figure out a few things as adults.  This means that we have the opportunity to teach or re-teach ourselves any missing pieces from our childhood.

My therapist recommended this book to me, as at the end of each chapter it teaches you how to apply the concept as an adult.

My biggest revelation from this book was understanding that emotional wellbeing is like a river, where one side of the riverbank is rigidity and the other side is chaos.  Depending on the household that we grow up in, we may have learned to cling to one of those riverbanks.  However, emotional wellbeing means that we are trying to float down the middle of this river.  Yes, life sometimes causes us to bump up against one of those banks, but our goal should be aiming for the middle of the river.  We can learn the skills that help us to float in the middle, even if we didn’t learn them as children.

Whether you are a parent or you need to fill in some missing pieces from childhood, this quick read is a valuable resource.

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