It’s okay to stop trying to fix your life…

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Have you ever noticed how quickly life seems to go downhill when you’ve lost your mental buffer? Maybe it’s a physical pain (backache, headache, etc.) or exhaustion or emotional circumstances. You are just trying to get through the day, but things keep piling up. You find yourself snapping at your spouse or kids. You have […]

You Are Not Responsible for Other People’s Emotions

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As published in Tiny Buddha, August 11th, 2016   “Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.” ~Eckhart Tolle “I don’t believe you,” I jutted out my chin like a petulant toddler. Collapsing back into the tufted leather loveseat, I conceded, “I want to believe you, but I can’t.” My therapist […]

How well do you handle uncomfortable emotions?

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Uncomfortable emotions are not fun. Over the years, I’ve ranged from stuffing my feelings down, to lashing out at inappropriate times, to being unable to express what is bothering me…and now I continue to re-assess if my uncomfortable emotions are in line with my values. I’ve shared this Rumi quote before, but I want to […]

How to deflate your frustration in less than a minute…

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When’s the last time that you felt frustrated? Yesterday? This morning? Chances are, it isn’t hard to recall a recent irritating moment. Most of the time, those moments involve other people: our children, our co-workers, our spouses. Don’t you wish that you had a cattle prodder magic switch that would change their behavior? Of course […]

The Health Risks of Being a People Pleaser

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As published in The Huffington Post on January 22nd, 2016. Dr. Neha Sangwan, author of Talk Rx, understands the pressures of trying to please everybody. Graduating with a degree in Mechanical and Biomedical Engineering, and later attended medical school to become an Internal Medicine Physician, was the result of Dr. Neha following a career path […]

Why We Choose to Be Erotic at Work and Not at Home

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As published in The Huffington Post on December 17th, 2015. Last October, I heard Esther Perel tell a conference room full of women that, “We are willing to be erotic at work and then numb at home.” Some of the audience sat stunned, some winced, and some nodded in agreement. It was a hard hitting truth — […]

Why sitting down can accelerate an emotional meltdown…

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    Think of the last time you were on the verge of losing your sh*t (okay…maybe you actually lost it, but I won’t tell). Chances are, you are not proud of that moment. Whether at work or at home, completely losing control is rarely constructive. I’d love to help you understand what happened and how […]

Better Relationship Communication Part 2 (video)

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Wow!  It sounds like several of you are trying to avoid assuming intention when talking with your significant other, as a result of Part 1 of this video series. In this video, I talk about my husband’s magic question that he uses to check in with me no matter how busy life gets.  I also […]

Better Relationship Communication Part 1 (video)

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This past Wednesday, I had the honour to speak at the Remarkable Man Project in Vancouver, BC.  We had a great Q&A afterwards and it made me decide to share my tips for better relationship communication with you! I don’t have it all figured out, but after 13 years of marriage and several major life […]