It’s okay to stop trying to fix your life…

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Have you ever noticed how quickly life seems to go downhill when you’ve lost your mental buffer? Maybe it’s a physical pain (backache, headache, etc.) or exhaustion or emotional circumstances. You are just trying to get through the day, but things keep piling up. You find yourself snapping at your spouse or kids. You have […]

Why I no longer feel guilty about doing less.

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“You cannot get your middle-aged childhood back.” – Anne Lamott Last week, Anne Lamott spoke at Emerging Women Live 2016 about the importance of rest. She reminded us that we need to practice “the divine sacrament of the plop” – of stopping to do nothing on a regular basis. That’s a big stretch for most […]

Who deserves the best version of you?

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A few years ago, my husband told me, “Not everyone deserves 100% Jill.” I was surprised by his statement. What he was trying to point out to me gently, is that by insisting on giving everyone 100% of my attention and energy, it was taking away from my ability to be the wife I wanted […]

How to deflate your frustration in less than a minute…

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When’s the last time that you felt frustrated? Yesterday? This morning? Chances are, it isn’t hard to recall a recent irritating moment. Most of the time, those moments involve other people: our children, our co-workers, our spouses. Don’t you wish that you had a cattle prodder magic switch that would change their behavior? Of course […]

The Health Risks of Being a People Pleaser

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As published in The Huffington Post on January 22nd, 2016. Dr. Neha Sangwan, author of Talk Rx, understands the pressures of trying to please everybody. Graduating with a degree in Mechanical and Biomedical Engineering, and later attended medical school to become an Internal Medicine Physician, was the result of Dr. Neha following a career path […]

How to Fend Off Burnout: Advice from Vicki Saunders

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As published in the Huffington Post Most of us behave as if our energy is an inexhaustible resource. We push ourselves and expect that if we crash and burn, we will rebound again after a little rest. But what if you were only allocated a certain amount of energy that needed to last for your […]

Why sitting down can accelerate an emotional meltdown…

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    Think of the last time you were on the verge of losing your sh*t (okay…maybe you actually lost it, but I won’t tell). Chances are, you are not proud of that moment. Whether at work or at home, completely losing control is rarely constructive. I’d love to help you understand what happened and how […]

Why do we self-diagnose for everything except THIS?

As published in Vancity Buzz on Friday May 8th, 2015. Think of the last time that you had a really bad cold. Remember how, after endless days of feeling miserable, you began to believe you would feel like that forever? You began to lose perspective on what it felt like to feel healthy.  Coughing, congestion and […]

How to Take Charge of Your Emotional Energy at Work

As published in Huffington Post December 16th 2014. Let’s face it. Work takes up a lot of our emotional energy. Add in a difficult colleague, feeling disconnected from your job, or the frustration of being constantly overlooked, and I guarantee that this will carry over into your home life. I recently spoke with Lisa Petrilli, […]