Do your spending habits align with what’s important to you?

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Over the past few years, the Secondhand Therapy community has explored the idea of managing our energy as a precious resource. Ideally, the way we spend our energy aligns with our personal values. Since last summer, I’ve been focused on managing another precious resource (MONEY!) and how it relates to my values.   Learning about […]

Who deserves the best version of you?


A few years ago, my husband told me, “Not everyone deserves 100% Jill.” I was surprised by his statement. What he was trying to point out to me gently, is that by insisting on giving everyone 100% of my attention and energy, it was taking away from my ability to be the wife I wanted […]

Lost in Translation: Are You Wasting Effort in Your Relationships?

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Think of the last time you had a great time with a friend. What was it that was so great? You got to spend time with them doing something that you loved? They make you feel special because of what they said? You had a special little gift that you couldn’t wait to give them…something […]

You’re Not Alone If You Have Mixed Feelings About Mother’s Day​…

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Mother’s Day is next Sunday. It’s supposed to be the day that we honor mothers, but it’s also a tough day for many people. My therapist says that, next to Christmas, it’s her busiest time of the year. I’ve spoken with many other people about this topic over the years, yet I struggled to write […]

Scrap your usual holiday checklist & try THIS instead.

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The holiday season is rapidly approaching and things feel a bit different this year. On one hand, it feels somewhat superfluous to be celebrating when there is so much tragedy in the recent news. Pope Francis has even said that Christmas celebrations are “all a charade…the whole world is at war.” On the other hand, there […]

10 Mind-Blowing Lessons from Badass Women You Can’t Afford to Ignore.

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Have you ever listened to someone speak, and the truth in their message shook you to your core? It’s a rare moment, but you can probably recall someone you watched live, listened to on the radio or on a podcast, or saw on television that challenged your way of thinking. That moment when you paused, reassessed, and decided […]

How are you spending your time?

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When was the last time you wished there was more time in each day? I don’t want to feel like I have to optimize every minute in the day. I’m just trying to figure out if there is a simple change or two that I can make to reclaim some wasted time in my day. […]

Better Relationship Communication Part 1 (video)

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This past Wednesday, I had the honour to speak at the Remarkable Man Project in Vancouver, BC.  We had a great Q&A afterwards and it made me decide to share my tips for better relationship communication with you! I don’t have it all figured out, but after 13 years of marriage and several major life […]

Coming Out to Your Family — About Your Holiday Anxiety!

As published in Huffington Post November 7th 2014. Thanksgiving and Christmas are supposed to be times of joy and laughter, when we embrace the rituals that our families have honored throughout the years. Each family has a unique perspective on what constitutes a real Thanksgiving or Christmas. However, families rarely talk about the amount of anti-depressants […]